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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

A Different Kind of Post...About Cancer and Comfort

Tomorrow my husband, the love of my life, is having surgery for prostate cancer. Now I know that this blog is specifically set up for me to talk about books and bookish things, not personal or religious things. But today I am breaking my own rules to talk just a little bit about cancer and comfort.

After learning of his diagnosis, Don and I decided right away that we were going to share the news with family, friends, and co-workers. Another friend who was diagnosed at approximately the same time with prostate cancer decided not to share the news with anyone. (We ended up bumping into him at the clinic so we learned of his diagnosis and decision to keep things quiet at that time.) I understand why our friend would want to maintain his privacy, but we decided that we needed the love and support of our friends.  And we decided for us support was more important than privacy. Admittedly though, it is a little like living our lives out loud. It's as if everyone knows what is going on, which is fine most of the time but can get a bit draining or annoying.  Weighing our decision to share the cancer diagnosis and treatment options against privacy I still think that we made the right choice. Why?  Because comfort comes in many forms.

Comforting words and actions have been directed toward us from so many quarters. Words of encouragement, notes sent mail or e-mail, telephone calls, offers of food, prayers, and time off work to go to appointments, pats on the back, hugs, and listening ears have all given us solace and comfort. Our best friend put us in touch with his cousin, a urologist in Seattle, who provided a recommendation that we see his partner a well-known prostate surgeon.  This man will be doing the surgery tomorrow and it feels like a miracle that we found him.

Sue, a gal at church, purchased and gave us a daily devotional guide, Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. I typically don't care for these types of guides but this one really speaks to my heart, as if God is actually talking to me.  Now, when I find worry creeping in to my thoughts I read a passage from it and it calms me. Here are portions of a few devotions from this little gem:
I AM WITH YOU, watching over you constantly.  I am Emmanuel (God with you); my Presence enfolds you in radiant Love. Nothing, including the brightest blessings and the darkest trials, can separate you from Me.--from May 29th devotion
The way to walk through demanding days is to grip My hand tightly and stay in communication with Me. Let your thoughts and spoken words be richly flavored with trust and thankfulness. Regardless of the day's problems, I can keep you in perfect Peace as you stay close to Me. --from June 4th devotion
 I AM ALL AROUND YOU, like a cocoon of Light. My Presence with you is a promise independent of your awareness of Me. Many things can block this awareness, but the major culprit is worry...Who is in charge of your life? If it is you, then you have good reason to worry.  But if it is I, then worry is both unnecessary and counterproductive... In this world you will have problems, but you need not lose sight of Me. --from June 7th devotion
Will this cancer destroy my sense of peace and my faith? No way! I believe in a God way bigger than any disease or any diagnosis.  And that faith is providing comfort right now.
"For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you." --Isaiah 41:13
Don's surgery is tomorrow around 1:15 PM (PDT).  Your prayers and positive thoughts during that time will bring great comfort.  Thank you.

6/24/11- ***Update.  Don went through the surgery very well and he is home already after only one night in the hospital.  Now we wait for the pathology reports.

7/5/11- ***Update.  Pathology report was great!  Cancer contained within the prostate.  All other tissue taken found no cancer cells.  No additional cancer treatment needed.

8 comments:

  1. Anyone believing in a hell fire for any child of God as being of God does not truly know him (1 John 4:20). God is love 1 John 4:8 and ….
    *Rom 13:10 “Love worketh no ill to his neighbour: therefore love is the fulfilling of the law”. Not one child of God will be put in a hell fire no matter what their sins. It never entered the heart or mind of God to ever do such a thing and I prove it by the word of God at http://minigoodtale.wordpress.com I invite you to read the true Gospel that sets all free to love.

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  2. I don't know your husband's age, but I do know that prostate cancer is very curable and I hope he is in that camp. My dad had the diagnosis (he is fine with no treatment), our neighbor had seeds, 2 teacher friends had seeds or surgery. In other words, there are good recovery vibes out there. I hope your husband's surgery goes well and that you feel comfort from your community!

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  3. I will be lifting you, your husband and your surgeon up all day tomorrow.

    God will be there to lend strength and comfort, help, hope, and healing.

    I know. My 17 year old has Leukemia and we are waiting for her counts to come up to start her 3rd of 4 rounds of chemo. I have believed from the moment of her dianosis that God has put us in the best place possible to be able to fight this disease. He will always help you too.

    Please keep us posted.
    Laura

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  4. You know that all my thoughts and prayers will be directed your way. Patt has chemo tomorrow and the last one hit him hard, so if you could spare a prayer for him also? Missed you at BC today. Had an interesting discussion on deZoet and mixed reviews from the group. Hugs.

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  5. I hope and pray that your husband's surgery goes well.

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  6. This is well-worth "breaking the rules" for. (Although, pssh, your blog, your rules!)

    We wish you and your husband all the best. We too draw comfort from the love and support of others. Please know that you have ours.

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  7. You got it -- prayers and thoughts coming your way! I'll be looking forward to hearing that this is over and was successful--so let us know!

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  8. Just going back and reading all the posts in my blog reader that I missed lately. Wow. Thank you for breaking your "rules" and posting this. What comforting words. I am so glad to hear that no further treatment is needed. Best wishes going forth.

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